Marriage is a huge milestone in your life. As you enter an all-new phase of your life, leaving your parents’ home and moving in with your hubby, there are indeed a million things that change. The problem is that with so many changes happening, it’s only natural that married life feels overwhelming at times.
As you embark on this new journey, it’s essential that you be mentally prepared for the challenges that may come your way. Having the right frame of mind and a positive attitude can go a long way in helping you build a perfect marriage.
Here, you can find a list of the top things that every bride should know before entering matrimony.
- There’s no perfect marriage
The idea of a perfect marriage that propagated in the media and Indian telly soaps is rather and mostly illusionary. Every conjugality, be it love or arranged marriage, has its ups and downs. There will be moments when you and your husband will have heated arguments and debates. That doesn’t mean your marriage is doomed.
Both you and your partner need to be willing to make sacrifices, hear the other person’s point of view and respect each other’s opinion to build a strong and supportive marriage.
- It takes two to tango
Marriage involves the efforts of both the husband and wife. Until now, you would have led a single, independent life making decisions all on your own. Hereafter, you will have to involve another person in your decisions.
Both you and your partner will have to work together to make the marriage work. Make sure that you discuss, share and keep the other person in the loop regarding all your joint decisions.
- Money matters
There’s a vast difference between being single and handling your finances by yourself and making money decisions with your partner together. When you get married, both you and your partner will have to work on a money management plan to grow and build your assets.
Do you want to get a joint bank account? Do you plan on taking a house loan, vehicle loan along with your partner? Who will pay what bills? These are a few financial matters that you will have to work out, early on in the marriage.
- Nurture your relationship
You would have probably spent the last few years of your life chasing your goals and building your career. Once you enter into marriage, you need to create space for the relationship. In the initial months of marriage, make sure to do things together as a couple.
Learn about your partner’s interests – trekking, biking, cooking, and so on – and carve out some space in your schedule just for the two of you, exploring new things together. This helps you to learn more about your partner while building a strong foundation for your relationship.
- Learn the basics of cooking
There’s arguably nothing old-school or anti-feministic about learning to cook. Even if it’s just you and your hubby after marriage and you plan to employ a full-time cook to help you in the kitchen, it’s essential that you know the basics of cooking. Learning to cook is one of the essential things to know before marriage.
Something as simple as cooking Rajma Chawal or Omelette is enough to keep you and your hubby happily fed, instead of relying on unhealthy and expensive take-outs all the time.
- Learn the art of saying no diplomatically
In India, even in urban circles, marriage is about two families. As you get married, you will find that you will have a thousand responsibilities thrust upon you. It’s essential that you learn the art of saying no, without hurting egos.
You need to learn how to politely put your foot down when you are forced into doing things that you don’t like. For instance, if your in-laws expect you to cook a full three-course meal daily when you return from work exhausted, instead of downright refusing, you can get your husband to help you in the kitchen.
- Sex should be fun for you too
Very often, women in India are conditioned to believe that sex is all about the man – understanding and satisfying his pleasures. But, of late, with broadening perspectives, women are slowly realising that sex is a pleasurable experience for both.
Read up on sex, share your apprehensions and worries with your husband and make it a joyous experience for both. Be more than a silent partner. There’s nothing wrong with initiating the action with your husband (your partner will certainly appreciate and enjoy it).
Apart from sex, make sure that you know your contraceptives if you aren’t planning childbirth soon. Finding the right contraceptive options that work for you is one of the essential things to know before marriage. There are lots of options like condoms, birth control pills and more. Knowing your choices helps you have safe and fun sex, which certainly spices up your married life.
Marriage is a beautiful journey of two people
Your marriage may not be picture perfect like those you see on social media and ads (no one has a marriage that is all smiles). But with a positive attitude, you can make your marriage as close to perfect as possible and build a beautiful life with your partner.