Today, family planning has become an integral part of the conversation among married couples. When to plan a baby after marriage, how many kids to have, whether to have a child or not, are all critical aspects of family planning discussions.
Here are the possible scenarios that you may face after your wedding, when it comes to wanting a child, along with crucial guidelines:
If you wish to have a child soon after marriage
If you and your spouse are ready to take the next big step after the wedding and raise a child, consult your OB-GYN. They will guide you on how to stop your contraception safely and if you are on the pill or had an implant or Intrauterine Device/ Intrauterine System what steps to take.
They will also prescribe you prenatal vitamins, check your medical history, inform you about the best time to conceive, and guide you on what to expect while trying to conceive and through your pregnancy.
If you wish to wait
There is no correct answer to the question of ‘how long to wait to have a baby after marriage? If you have consciously decided to wait, then you and your partner must discuss the contraception options. Do you want your primary contraception to be woman-centric like the birth control pill? Or you prefer a male condom? Or do you want to increase the chances of prevention and opt for both? Talk to your partner and explore the various contraceptives together and see which ones work best for you.
If you wish to wait for an extended period, there are certain long-term contraceptives such as implants, IUD or IUS, which prevent pregnancy for 3-10 years depending on the device.
If you do not want to conceive at all
If you are absolutely sure you do not wish to conceive at all, and the idea of always checking if you have condoms or the side-effects of birth control pills is not appealing, then you could ask your doctor for permanent contraception options. Vasectomy for men or tubal ligation for women is a surgical and permanent contraceptive method. If you do not want surgery, you can explore more options with your doctor.
If you want a child with a same-sex partner
Navigating the law can be tricky in this situation. Depending on where you reside, the adoption laws for same-sex married/unmarried couples may differ. However, you could opt for surrogacy or IVF.
Raising a family is no child’s play. With family planning, you can ensure that when the time comes to have a child, you are mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially ready to put in the work to raise a healthy and happy child, while enjoying the other aspects of your life. Whatever you decided, the most important thing is to reach that decision with your partner.