Raising a child together can be one of the most meaningful things you ever do with your partner. It can also be one of the most challenging tasks. All the time, energy, and focus shifts to raising a baby that cannot exactly communicate their demands and still be demanding. This can often lead to the spark in the marriage simmering down or blowing out completely.
Thankfully, there are some non-time-consuming ways to ensure that your relationship and marriage still hold the spark that made your partner and your partner stay in love. Check them out:
Get a hobby together
Well, you had a baby together, now how about a hobby? It can be something as simple as discovering a whole set of documentaries together, forming a two-person book club, listening to new music, checking out a new restaurant every week, or anything else that the two of you wish to explore. Make sure it is not time-consuming or requiring too much commitment, as that can be a big put-off for you as new parents. Engaging in a hobby together can add a new dimension of meaning to your life and keep the spark alive.
Take a break from being parents
Take advantage of your extended family and friends. Ask them to babysit the kid while you go out on a dinner date. You need to consciously remember and focus on your spouse as your “partner” and not just as “the other parent of your baby.” This will help you to continue looking at them in a romantic light. Designate some time every day where you talk about things apart from your parenting duties.
No, it doesn’t mean just sex. Physical intimacy can be something as simple as cuddling together at night after a long day of changing diapers and burping the baby. Realistically, most nights will end at cuddling and no sexual intimacy, as both of you will be beyond exhausted. However, on days when you find the time, energy, and desire to have more intimate, make sure you use protection. You can get pregnant even three weeks after delivering a baby.
With your healthcare worker’s advice, you can start yourself on Mankind’s Unwanted -21. It is a birth control pill that needs to be taken for 21-days (one pill each day, at the same time), followed by your period. You then start another pack. In case you decided not to use any other protection, or in case of protection failure, you can get Mankind’s Unwanted-72- an emergency contraceptive pill. It is India’s No. 1 Contraceptive Tablet and should be taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex.
Are you feeling overwhelmed? Do you miss having your spouse to yourself? Whatever is on your mind, communicate it to your partner. When you communicate with your partner as freely as you did before the baby, it lets them also know that you are thinking of them. It may sound silly, but it’s a fact that when the focus shifts to the baby, the partner can feel a little left out. So, make sure you have real conversations with your partner, appreciate them, acknowledge them.
Who doesn’t like a massage? Learn how to give a massage, and after a long day, pamper your spouse with a much-needed head and neck massage. This will show your partner that you care and help build a more appreciative bond between you two.
Create a vision board together
There’s more to a relationship than just a romantic spark. Keep the spark of meaningful togetherness alive by working on a shared vision board. What are your shared ambitions? Do you have travel goals as a couple? Do you envision moving to the hills or getting a beach house someday? Looking forward to the new future that you will be co-creating will help keep the spark glowing.
Engage in self-care
Sometimes, the most obvious is forgotten. Take care of yourself- physically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically. When you are feeling centred, you will be able to reach out to your partner and offer what they are extending to you.
Remember that having a baby is the next chapter in your relationship as a couple and not the end. With that thought and these tips, build your marriage into something even stronger.